Saturday, 26 October 2013

I Will Not Blame Others

Well, Blaming others for a screwed up result is the simplest thing a person can do. How many times it has happened with you that when your project got screwed up, you tried finding an escape-goat blaming him for all the bad things , however if project was successful you yourself came forward with your broad chest , "it happened due to me only"?

You want to take credit for all the success gained by your team , however when its no good time , you escape putting someone else neck under the sword.

You wanted to achieve something but couldn't. How many times have you blamed the circumstances for such failures ? I have seen people blaming their environments, their schooling, education system, political system, Market conditions, lack of opportunities, Reservation system, Scaling in UPSC exams, Corruption .. "you name it and they have a ready excuse for it". Did you really tried hard putting your best with full honesty ? Think !!

The blame game is a common human nature but only for them who doesn't have sense of accountability and are generally victims. It also starts when your Job is at stake , when you know that this will hit negatively on your bonus/increment. 

Look out for the instances of blame game in your home. If your son doesn't perform well , what do you say to your wife (or vice-versa)- " Its because he is copying you" , but if he performs well - " After all he is my son ".The way kids see us today , will behave tomorrow and hence the show will go on. 

How many times you blame government for not doing this not doing that etc..
Did you ever appreciated them for something they were able to do? When it is time to Vote, do you go to choose the right government?

Can't we stop blaming others, instead introspect and retrospect the process to find out root cause and ensure we do not repeat the same mistake again. Don't ever try to find the escape-goat. Let their be some room to improve processes. We are all human being, we are born to learn from our mistakes.

Accepting mistake makes your image liberal in the organization. Leadership knows you for accepting accountability. Hence you may get more important assignments in future. Your team gets motivation to do better in future , after all they are also human being and each one internally knows who did what that contributed in failure. Team's conscience will not allow them to continue with all failures as they also understand the repercussions. 

When its all success , let the team take the credit , say it loudly - "We did it well" but when its failure , don't hesitate in accepting that - "I am accountable for this". 

Its a paradigm shift once you understand when to use "I" and when to use "We". My personal experience is - No one got fired till day because he accepted the responsibility of failure. Yes, those who argued well and created multiple reasons to put a sugar coated explanation were removed, After all each organisation wants to stop the spread of negative vibes.

It requires a big heart to accept the defeat than passing on the ball to other's court.

So , what do you say , try exercising it and see the positive energy flowing all around you. You will make a good team , good friends and you yourself will become a good person.

I will conclude with the below inspirational video clip :

Only cowards blame each other , powerful man accepts accountability

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